Monday, June 28, 2010

I want a boy and not a girl

"I didn't want a girl because I would have to keep an eye on her and be worried about her all the time"

This comes from a woman who is well-educated, city bred and is expected to be less conservative.

Is that a good enough reason for not wanting a girl?

Now, I don't have kids so I really do not know how it feels; but, I don't think any reason is good enough for not wanting a girl child.

She is from a family of only daughters, and probably there has been a social stigma on her family of not having brother/son......the one who would supposedly take care of the parents in the old age. When the daughters got married, they were relieved upon having boys of their own. They thought they proved a point and that the social stigma doesn't exist anymore.

Here, it is illegal to determine the sex of a child before birth. What if she had a girl instead of a boy? Would she have said to her daughter that she didn't want her because she is a girl and cause of more worries?

She says that her mother also wanted her to have a boy for the same reason.

There are people existing that do not want girls for the reasons mentioned above. They also say that a lot of money is spent on their education and in getting them married, not to mention the dowry; If they are working, all the money would go to the husband's family, so what's the point of having a girl, anyway; And, if something goes wrong, it will bring shame to the family, etc...

Some blatently say that, and some, the educated ones, say it in a more polished manner.

The meaning is the same.


Law said...

im sure tats wrong maddy, but if by chance i have a kid after marriage for sure i would like to have a GAL kid first, with a lot of pleasure i would like to spend my all on her.

Maddie said...

hehehe....then be ready to see a big dent in your pocket... :P

Jokes aside, I often hear it from this woman, and it is always said with the effect that "Thank God I don't have girls," which I think is not right.

It is one thing to say that okay after so many girls it would be nice to have a boy, to complete the family or vice versa. But if it is said with absolute dislike of that gender is what bothers me.

Law said...

yes i wud be certainly ready 4 it,tat shows ter attitude

Manusmriti said...

Be it a boy or girl, there will be worries and of course, dents in the pocket. Only the nature of the worries differ...tell this to your friend. The worries are still there. And for the people who aren't able to care for kids, please don't have kids. I do love kids, be it a boy or girl makes no difference to me. How he/she behaves depends on how I groom him/'s as simple as that. :)